Learn how to care for yourself while in relationship with an addict. Break the chains of your painful patterns by tending to your own truth.

This 7-week healing journey into your sweet soul begins 12/15/19

Yes, I'm ready.

IT'S LIKE THIS...

I've been right where you're at, honey. You've given a lot to this person, this humxn you love, this humxn who is struggling with addiction. Some days you wonder if you've given too much. Some days you're deathly afraid you haven't given nearly enough. But you're emptying out. Your well, that energy flow (your life force!) which always felt so full and overflowing, is now low. So low. Too low.

Maybe you're just noticing that you've forgotten (or never really known) how to care for yourself. How to put yourself on your own priority list. You know how to over give (ancestral shit) and frankly, you're over it.

You have your own stuff too. Maybe you struggle with feeling worthy or good enough or that you have the support of the universe (or even just your friends and family). Maybe you overwork or numb out to Netflix or stay so busy that you can't possibly slow down to hear and see yourself. . . something you dearly want from others.

And maybe things feel ok, manageable, maybe even still good. You get flickers of hope in this relationship. . .every time you're at the end of your rope you get reeled back in.

Then you're back in the rhythm of //

  • making excuses for their behavior
  • not wanting to fight about it so you give in
  • keeping score
  • using manipulation as a tool because "normal" communication gets you nowhere
  • feeling self-righteous because you've done some inner work and it feels imbalanced
  • feeling exhausted and crushed from the broken promises
  • walking on eggshells because who knows what version of them you'll get
  • stuffing down your emotions because IT'S FINE

The slow whittling down of yourself to meet this other persxn who's so beautiful, so much potential, so saveable. You can taste how sweet it could be if they would just change.

It's a struggle because you're smart and aware and yet you can't figure out how to fix this.

Truth is, you can't. Not even if you're the best fixer.

But there's something you can do. And it's you.

•・•・•

I did this work and it saved me. The humxn I loved? He's now my husband, 7 years sober, and we're 14 years into this wild experiment of loving and living.

I don't promise any marriage or miraculous recovery.

I promise to show you what I know.
How I learned to fill up with grace, self-love and trust. How I learned wholeness.
It's what I've taught hundreds of humxns.

It's what got me through the toughest times when I didn’t even know myself anymore. Which, in essence, was the miracle I needed even more than my partner's sobriety.

Then you can take that new language and create your life with intention, courage, and a new way of loving yourself and others.

Whatever you do with that is up to you, but I’d love to show you the way forward (with a broken heart as the ever-wise Alice Walker reminds us.)

We can do this,

THE WAY FORWARD...

▲ For six weeks, you'll be held in a sacred container where transformation of your oldest patterns will be possible. You'll cross a threshold and emerge changed.

I'll be your guide, coach, cheerleader, road dog, champion. I have no designs for you △ my work is to help you stand in your tender and ferocious power, returning to grace and self-love.

▲ I bring together mindset mastery and profoundly tender soul exploration to grow your self-awareness, engage tested tools of transformation, and change lives.

Over a decade ago, I looked up and realized that I didn't know myself anymore. I was lost in a swirl of work (as a political organizer), partying, people-pleasing, and over-extending myself ▽ My inner critic was always busy and I was hurting.

▼ The fact that my partner was descending into his own addictions was just a part of the whole swirl. His addiction to drinking and drugs. My addiction to the busy-ness.

I prayed to the universe for support ▽ And I found it in the incredible guidance of a group of womxn who showed me how to diligently work with my mindset, my emotions, and my energy.

▼ All of a sudden, I could see myself. I could see my power. I could see where I'd given it away and resisted it.

My journey wasn't a mystery, it was unconscious story-telling and a stagnant survival-mode △ So, I learned how to wake up and tell different stories that affirmed me rather than depleting me. That supported clarity and joy even through painful times.

▲ I learned how to release victim// martyr// savior and embrace a life of magic, true appreciation, and vision. This is all teachable and learnable.

HOW IT WORKS...

You'll learn (or peel back even more layers on) the big WHY you're stuck in these relationship patterns, how to break the psychic chains, and vision what you really want for yourself and your relationships.

We'll practice the skills and techniques you need to grow while truly supporting and centering your own mental// physical// emotional// spiritual well-being (guilt-free!), and you'll cultivate the know-how to put it all into aligned action.

timing

Over 8 weeks, the group will meet 6 times for ~90 minutes of live coaching in an online, private, sacred portal.

the portal

You'll get homework assignments emailed to you after each session to prepare you for the next one and support the work we do in the group. Each live class will be recorded and the replay posted in our private portal. You will also have the opportunity to submit questions for the live classes even if you can't make it.

  • Name
    Kara Yanagida / light worker - I'm finally giving myself permission to really shape my own path, and to let what needs to rise to the surface, truly manifest, instead of my normal inclination to just jump for whatever pops up first. I'm holding space for myself and committing to myself in an entirely new way, and part of that has been an incredible resurgence of faith in my true self to survive all of the fear and doubt and confusion, and come out even brighter and more full of life on the other side. I feel so much more confident in being able to trust myself now and as I move forward!
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    Martha Morrison / dancer & entrepreneur - Dana is a compassionate coach who is relentless in helping others find their own clarity. She helped excavate some beliefs that have been holding me back for years and she did so in a way that was empowering because she asked me questions until I heard my own words. Not only was my inner truth revealed to me, but through this process I am re-building my intuition and learning how to hear myself again.

    This course has changed my life and I am confident that I can move towards my big vision with clarity. But the best part? Now I have the tools to actually ENJOY my journey.
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    Tiffany Calhoun / entrepreneur - My big decisions, at the beginning of the course, created a large fog over my life. In general, my life was good. But, I knew I wasn’t operating at the highest level and that I needed more clarity. The big questions I wanted to get clear don’t seem overwhelming anymore. This is a program that I for see myself using for years ahead as I grow and my life changes. Dana is such a beautiful supportive teacher! The program was monumental in moving stagnant blocks in my life.

THE CURRICULUM...

This is not the entirety of the curriculum. I love to tune into the energetic signature of the group and respond to what I hear being asked for. I utilize shadow work, mindset work, emotional coherence, energy work, and various other modalities in the live sessions + homework.

WEEK 1 // HOW YOU GOT HERE (AKA AWARENESS, THE BUILDING BLOCK OF TRANSFORMATION)

WEEK 2 // HOW TO CULTIVATE YOUR BIGGEST, BOLDEST VISION

WEEK 3 // MAKING THE SHIFT THAT WILL CHANGE EVERYTHING

WEEK 4 // DEEP-DIVE CHECK-IN & INTEGRATION

WEEK 5 // CREATING YOUR IDEAL RELATIONSHIP

WEEK 6 // DEEP-DIVE CHECK-IN & INTEGRATION

You also get a morning and evening guided meditation to bookend your day and support you in creating a sacred container for your healing journey.

WHO THIS IS FOR...

  • You feel stagnant in your healing process. You’ve been doing the work but know there are deeper levels you need some guidance to access.
  • You’re aware of the many thought/emotional/behavioral patterns you have and you’re ready to move that awareness into ACTION.
  • You are tired of doing it alone and are craving support in your healing. (Or you're realizing your current support system needs an upgrade.)
  • You know it's time to release old programs and limiting beliefs from your consciousness.
  • You want to understand and communicate your emotions clearly, without shame or guilt.
  • You feel curious, open, and willing to show up for yourself and your transformation.
  • You desire the support of a community who is likewise tuned into growth and healing.
  • You're in a relationship with an addict (partner, friend, parent, sibling, etc) and you're ready for some support for your own journey.
  • You're ready for some support for your own journey...you're ready to come back home to yourself.

WHO THIS IS NOT FOR...

  • You're looking for a quick fix. This is more a "become the awesome truth of who you really are over time" approach to healing.
  • You hope to learn/grow by osmosis. This program is not passive...it will require you to show up.
  • If you're honest with yourself, you have zero intention of slowing down. Inner work requires it. You def don't have to stop your life, but you will have to get more still to hear yourself.
  • You aren’t ready to take responsibility for what you're creating. You gotta stop the blame game & giving your power away.
  • You need a high level of individual support.

Beloved, it's a-ok if this isn't for you. It doesn't mean you're not on your "right" path. It means you're choosing something else right now — own your choice from the inside out. And it's pretty darn normal to be scared right about now as you consider this kind of work. I remember literally shaking as I committed to the deep exploration that midwifed me through that painful time (part of what I'm now teaching here in this course). You get to determine whether it's evolutionary discomfort (dancing on the wild edge of your growth) or informational discomfort (body is saying NO WAY). Tune in.

  • Bonus 1 // Second Time Around

    The next time I run this program you can join in for free. There are always more layers to peel back!

  • Bonus 2 // Meditations Bundle

    You’ll get access to a bundle of my most popular meditations and guided visualizations.

FAQs

How much time do I need to set aside for the course?

This is a 7-week live class with the opportunity to view the replays. I recommend devoting the 90-min to 2 hours for the class and at least an extra hour per week for the homework. That can include the suggested daily practices. You can, of course, always spend more time. And you likely will, because in a way you’ll be entering a new mind/heart space and the work will be happening in the background, even when you’re not fully focused on it.

Do you offer a guarantee/refund?

There are no refunds, so please take that into account when signing up.

Do you offer any scholarships?

There are a limited number of partial scholarships for BIPOC and Trans/GNC folx. If you’re interested, please email me using the chat icon on the lower right of this page with the subject SCHOLARSHIP and we’ll go from there.

How long do I have access to the course?

You have access to the course for the length of the program (6-weeks) + an additional…

I won’t be able to attend all the sessions live, is it still worth it?

That’s really up to you. There will be guided teachings at the top of each session and then we’ll go into a discussion and a Q&A. All the live group coaching calls will be recorded and posted in the student portal for you to access at your convenience. Of course, there’s magic in joining live but you will absolutely be able to feel the container of group support even if you are watching the videos at a later time. And you can pre-submit questions so I can answer and you can get the teachings when you watch the replay. If that set-up feels supportive to you and where you’re at, then I’m looking forward to sharing this work with you.

What is the schedule for this program?

Session 1 will be on Sunday December 15 at 8:30am PST. We’ll go 5 Sundays in a row, and the 6th session will be 2 weeks after Session 5 on January 26, 2020. Replays of each session will always be available within 24 hours and posted in our group portal.

Is there a payment plan??

Sure is. Please note that if you select the payment plan and your card bounces for the 2nd payment, and is not rectified within 24 hours time, you will lose access to all aspects of the course immediately.

What if I have another question that isn't here?

No problemo! Just email me at dana@danabalicki.com and ask away! I’ll get back to you within 24 hours.

are you ready to step into the light...shadows and all?

I'm ready.

LETTING THE LIGHT IN...

HEY, I'M DANA BALICKI.

I'm coming at this work from my most vulnerable *gulp* and authentic place. My own life + the sacred work I'm here to do in the world.

I'm not a certified addiction expert. I'm a transformational coach & guide with 12+ years of my own intense spiritual journeying and 7 beautiful years with my own coaching practice where I've served hundreds of amazing humxns, including many addicts, folx in recovery, and those who are related to or in romantic partnerships with addicts.

I have 15+ years experience of being in relationship with addicts, including my husband.

The assumed/inherited anonymity of some recovery frameworks for partners/relatives/friends of those struggling with addiction isn't for everyone (FYI, I think Al-Anon is a beautiful support).

I'm here for the release of shame and hiding. For the connection and support many of us need.

I see addiction as just one way folx cope w/ the utter insanity of our world. We ALL have our coping mechanisms and they ALL have an expiration date.

I want us to step into the light...shadows and all.

Anything else you want to ask? Click that cute little chat icon and leave me a message!

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